The speech therapist is impressed – bye bye Baby Bean, hello Little Bean!

And so is Mummy!

I haven’t really done a post on this yet, just kind of dropped it into conversation here and there.  Over the past two weeks or so, something has happened to Baby Bean and she has finally started to eat adult food.  Ok not so much fruit and vegetables and all the healthy stuff but honestly I really don’t care that much.  We have progressed from “mush” and at the moment that is plenty good enough for me.

250310 054I think the turning point was when we introduced her to a fork, she has been fascinated by it and wants to use it all the time to eat.  As she picks food up she says “stab it” and then sticks it in her mouth.  So far she has tried pasta (didn’t like it!), pizza (loves it), fish fingers (so-so), chicken nuggets (ok), turkey dinosaurs (jury’s out), potato waffles, smiley faces, chips (loves them all!), omelette (different face, different days!) and scotch pancakes (loves them).  To say that I’m happy is a massive understatement but I’ve managed to hide it from her and treat it like nothing major has happened.

Today we saw the Speech Therapist who has been a fantastic tower of strength for me and given me lots of support and advice.  I’m really pleased to say that she was amazed at the turnaround in Baby Bean and was also surprised by how much her speech had come along too.  Finally my baby has turned into a little girl, so I think from now on she will be known on my Blog as Little Bean to mark her move to the next exciting stage of her life. 

I used to remember reading posts like this one, thinking “I wish that was my daughter – will she ever eat properly?”.  Well, here we are, she’s a long way off eating “properly” but she is much further forward than I ever anticipated and I’m so excited.  Now she doesn’t seem as bothered about trying new things, she is starting to understand me when I say to her that she has to at least “try” before she says no.  If she says no, I respect her wishes and take the food away, I don’t try to force anymore down her because she has done as I have asked.  Some of the foods she has “tried” have become firm favourites and others have dropped off the menu FOR NOW – have no fear Mummy will be trying them again in a few months time.

My advice to other parents who have a fussy eater:-

  • you really ARE NOT alone.  At the time you are at the table, yes it feels that way but there are thousands of us out there who have had or still have fussy eaters.
  • Try to stay as calm as possible whilst they are eating, even if they refuse everything you put in front of them – they WILL NOT starve themselves. 
  • Do not offer one food after another when they refuse it.  Stick to your guns and tell them that this is all there is.  Do this and you will regret it in years to come when you are cooking 4 different meals for 4 different mouths!
  • Work out what sort of child you have with regards to praise – if I got over-excited with Little Bean when she was eating something new she would soon suss out that it was what I wanted her to do and stop.  So I pretended it was no big deal and that I couldn’t care less whether she ate or not and this seems to have worked really well with her as she is a very bright little girl.
  • Wherever possible eat with your child or at least get your children to eat with others as Little Bean has come on leaps and bounds since she has found that eating is a “social” activity.
  • Enlist the help of professionals, the Speech Therapist has given me lots of great advice and support.  It may sound strange to see a Speech Therapist to help with eating issues but speech and swallowing are all linked.
  • We have also seen Paediatricians and Dieticians who have given us the confidence that there is nothing physically wrong with our daughter, she’s just awkward.  The Dietician was able to give us advice on different foods to try as we discovered that her issue was surrounding the feel of food in her hands not her mouth – probably another reason that the fork has helped!
  • If your child is like mine with “touch”, try messy play as this can help lots too.
  • DON’T GIVE UP!  And don’t beat yourself up about it – I used to feel like I had failed her and that it was my fault that she wasn’t eating because I hadn’t tried hard enough or hadn’t gone about it “the right way” but actually, she’s a human being and is already making her own decisions!
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  • Slamdunk

    March 26 at 3:53 pm

    Congrats on the progress. Our little son sees a speech therapist as well.

    1. mummymatters

      March 26 at 8:53 pm

      Thank you, I really am very proud of how far she has come along. How are you doing with your little man? Fingers crossed it all works out for you too x

  • supersinglemum

    March 26 at 5:58 pm

    I noticed yesterday her speech has come on fantastically! Bless ya, you’ll be all sorted soon in time for the next one lol!!! xx

    1. mummymatters

      March 26 at 8:55 pm

      Well I’m hoping so, though no doubt the next one will come with a whole new set of challenges! Watch this space . . . .

  • mummymatters

    March 27 at 9:35 pm

    I would definitely give it a go, I got referred to mine through the Health Visitor and I think it took about 6 weeks for an appointment to come through. My lady was lovely and a great source of comfort and assistance. I have heard that boys tend to be slower at starting to talk and he maybe just doesn’t have anything that he wants to say at the moment. My Mum took me to the Docs when I was 2 and a half because I wasn’t talking and they wondered if I was deaf. Turned out I was absolutely fine I just didn’t have anything I particularly wanted to say. I hope they are able to help you – do let me know how things go x

  • mummymatters

    March 27 at 9:37 pm

    Hi, I’m not too sure to be absolutely honest with you but I did a quick search on the net and found this if it helps?
    Technically, your undergraduate degree can be in any field, but for certification as a speech-language pathologist, you need at least a Master’s degree with a prescribed range of courses in the speech sciences.
    Certification requires at least 75 semester hours, with at least 36 at the graduate level. Unless you have take some basic speech science courses as an undergraduate, you may have to take all 75 semester hours at the graduate level; some of them will be prerequisite to your qualifying for admission to the Master’s program.
    The following link explains the standards for certification in speech-language pathology by the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association:
    The next link shows graduate programs in speech-language pathology in the U.S. (and worldwide). Investigate the programs that interest you so that you can plan your undergraduate degree as preparation for the graduate program. Faculty at the colleges and universities that have programs in speech-language pathology will usually be happy to help you.

  • Kara

    August 5 at 7:14 am

    This is such an interesting post to read, I have a SN’s son who can’t eat (due to disabilities, we have then had our daughter who I know can eat as she has off my plate but wont eat feed, only mush, it is bothering me so much, I feel like a failure, I see all these blogs with 8mth olds eating corn on the cob. Can I ask what age was Little Bean when she turned this corner x

    1. IamMummyMatters

      August 6 at 11:38 am

      This was around 18months although we have had many trials and tribulations since – the Speech Therapist was so lovely and a great source of support. I would never have considered a ST could help with eating issues if it wasn’t for the Health Visitors so it might be worth speaking with yours to see if they can help 🙂 Good luck x

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