Top Tips to Help your child settling into Primary School

The Summer and its infamous six week holiday came and went in a whirlwind, and we are now in the early stages of an autumnal September. With the end of Summer and the beginning of September, comes a monumental stage in many parents and children’s lives like – the first day of school. It can be, at times, every bit as nerve-wracking and difficult for you as it is for them, so helping them to settle into their new school routine can be a bit of a daunting time for all involved. If you’re struggling with the early days of school, here are some top tips on settling into Primary School.

Go into the School Before their Start Date

Settling into Primary School

If you were to sell your house fast and move to a completely new area – what’s the first thing you’d do before you moved there? You’d go to the area, explore, and get an idea of what it’s like and where things are.

When you think about it like that, starting school is almost as big a transition, especially for a child. The fact is they’re going to spend, what feels like to them, the vast majority of their days at school, so the more familiar they are with it the better. If you can, before your child’s first day, make sure that you visit the school together and get to have a look round.

Most schools are great with this, as they introduce children gradually with methods such as taster days and the like, but even if your child has nerves leading up to the big day after this, have a trial school run. This way, at the very least they’re likely to get used to what’s around the school, and where it is in relation to their home. This alone will help them to feel safer and more comfortable with such a big change when settling into Primary School.

Get to Know their Teacher


If you can, get to know their form teacher for the year a little better. The fact is, other than you, this person will be one of the largest influences over your child in their early development, so the better you know them and feel comfortable with them, the easier the school transition will be for you as a parent too.

Getting to know you helps them to get to know your child better too. By doing this and recognising your child’s individual personality, they’re far more likely to help with any problems that could arise in the future, whether that be with bullying or classwork. Although we all hope that that won’t happen as parents, the school will be a smooth ride for our respective children; it’s not always the case. It is the school’s responsibility to ensure the safeguarding of all children in their care; you can familiarise yourself with what this means via CBAT.

Having an adult who you trust, who knows your child and what they’re like can give you that extra bit of reassurance, and can provide your child with a teacher they know they can go to for help and guidance.

Encourage Your Child to Socialise


Make life easier for your little one, and encourage them to socialise and make friends from the outset. Of course, you as a parent can’t control everything that happens in the playground, but you can encourage your child to be sociable and to invite everyone to play together.

However, there are ways you can actually help your child to socialise. It might be that you make friends with some of the other parents of children in your child’s class, or at the very least there might be some parents there you already know. Organise a playdate! You can’t force your child to be friends with the children of your friends, of course, you need to let them find their own path, but in the early days, this is a great way of helping them to socialise and make new friends.

Establish a Routine


Last but certainly not least, establishing a routine is integral to ensuring that your child’s early school days are easier for both of you.

Like with all routines, it can take a while to get in the swing of things, but establishing a routine will help your child to feel safer amidst all of the change. Whether that be a routine at bedtime, homework time, mornings, or even walking to school – it all contributes to helping both you and your little one settle into this new period of your lives.

Settling into Primary School


  • Newcastle FamilyLife

    September 13 at 11:06 am

    My son started reception last year and daughter the year before and luckily they settles in super quick as they previously went to the nursery attached to the school so they had friends and knew the teachers etc. Some good tips here

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:03 pm

      My boys attended the nursery next to the school which really helped with their transition.

  • motherhoodtherealdeal

    September 13 at 1:33 pm

    Socialising is so important – we organised a lot of play dates and trips to the park when our daughter started and it really helped.

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:03 pm

      It makes such a difference when parents take the time to do that.

  • Sarah Howe

    September 13 at 1:40 pm

    I’m all about the routine! This year we are making sure my eldest does her homework immediately to avoid the usual stress!!

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:02 pm

      That’s how we always do it, otherwise, it’s so easy to get forgotten. Good luck x

  • forkwardthinkingfoodinista

    September 14 at 11:04 am

    This is so important, as if things start on a good note it makes all the difference. Also helps confidence xx

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:01 pm

      It does make such a difference to the confidence 🙂

  • mommamack15

    September 15 at 8:35 pm

    My daughter’s school arranged visits before she started which were really helpful. We were also invited to have lunch together in the school hall so she and I both knew what to expect, the food was yummy too!

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:00 pm

      Oh, that’s a lovely idea, we do the school visits but not the lunch.

  • Jenni

    September 15 at 8:35 pm

    In Edinburgh schools went back mid August, and my youngest started in P1. It really helped that he already knew the school a little through his big brother, and in fact he as the same teacher his brother had last year!

    1. Sabina Green

      September 16 at 2:00 pm

      That makes the transition so much better for them, doesn’t it. I definitely think it helps my youngest x

  • Stephanie

    September 16 at 8:03 pm

    A good routine is a big thing for us in this house, it means that we can have a straight forward morning routine and everyone stays chilled and relaxed to start the day

    1. Sabina Green

      September 17 at 1:39 pm

      It certainly makes a difference in how your day pans out if it can be calm in the mornings.

  • Clare Minall

    September 17 at 10:18 am

    I love this topic, always gives me a little bit of sense what I need to do and be prepared for when my baby start schooling. Thanks!

    1. Sabina Green

      September 17 at 1:43 pm

      It’s a time full of so many emotions, it pays to be prepared ahead of time x

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