I have just been to pick up Little Bean from pre-school and was met my her key worker who told me “we have had a serious incident with Little Bean today, she lost it at a couple of girls, pulled one girls hair, grabbed another girls cheeks and scratched them quite badly and was just about to hit another girl but we managed to stop her in time”. I could have cried as this is not behaviour that I want to hear about from my little girl.
When we got home I sat Little Bean down and asked her what sort of day she’d had, had anything happened. Little Bean replied that she’d had a good day and that nothing had happened. I asked her what she thought her key worker might have told me about and again she said nothing so then I tried the direct approach and asked if she had been mean to anyone at school today. Again she said no so then I told her what her key worker had told me. Immediately her face dropped and she said that she had done those things. I told her that I was disappointed that she hadn’t admitted this to me in the first place but that I was really upset to hear that she had been mean to other girls at school. I asked what had happened to make her so angry with the other girls but all she would say was “I don’t know” and when I asked her why she had hurt the other girls she just replied with “because I did”.
Have you experienced this with your children before? How do you handle it because I’m lost?