“Oh its just another phase” – isn’t that what people always say to you when you whinge for the hundredth time about whatever tantrums your toddler/pre-schooler has been going through of late? That’s what I keep getting at the moment and I know that people are right but just for once I would like someone to say “ah yes I have the answer to that problem” but I know its not going to happen.
The ‘phase’ that we are currently going through with Little Bean (again!) is the backchatting and I’m-going-to-do-everything-that-you-tell-me-not-to phase and I can honestly say I feel like I’m losing my marbles. I REALLY need to find a new way of disciplining her without losing my temper and becoming a shouty Mum but I just don’t know how. I get so frustrated with “please don’t do that”, “no, I said stop”, “will you just STOP” and still she doesn’t listen, there has to be another way. I have been told to try whispering – which I know does work well as a form of discipline, I still remember my biology teacher Mr Willerton, he barely raised his voice above a whisper and it was honestly quite menacing – I remember he shouted once and we all nearly fell off our chairs! But I’m not sure whispering is for me, I can’t even do that quietly. On a good day I’m pretty good at ignoring bad behaviour and praising good but I’m not sure what happened to the good days, I think they went on holiday and decided to emigrate?
So how DO you tackle a back-chatting three year old who retorts with “no Mummy, I’m just going to do this now” every time you tell her not to? I’m not sure how many more times my over-emotional self can take being told “you always shout Mummy and you’re not very nice”, is there a Mummy bootcamp I can go on to be better at discipline or it is just another phase I’m going through too?