And so the battle with Little Bean and food continues, but I honestly don’t know how much more of this I can take. I have probably bored most of my readers to death on the topic of “my daughter won’t eat” and I’ve had some lovely responses from parents who must be far stronger than me. I’ve always considered myself to be strong but lately I’m questioning that because I wonder if this next thing is going to be the straw that breaks the camel’s back?
Little Bean has always been the worst of eaters but now we’re reaching an all time low and I don’t know which way to turn. Last week she didn’t eat tea 5 out of 7 nights and went to bed on an empty, yes that’s right, an empty stomach!!! Tonight we sat at the table for over 90 minutes but at least she ate half of the plate. By plate I mean half of the 3 chicken nuggets that I had put on her plate. I feel ashamed typing that on my blog because although I’m not the best of cooks, I actually don’t want my daughter to eat that kind of rubbish, I’d love to be able to write “my daughter only ate half of her roast dinner” or “half of her roasted stuffed peppers . . .” but I can’t because all that she will eat is junk food, plain and simple. If it isn’t covered in batter or breadcrumbs she won’t eat it, if it doesn’t resemble chocolate or at best a fruit puree she’s not interested. In the last month she has started a new game with her food, she stores it in her cheek!!! Not for 5 or 10 minutes, she will store it in her cheek for hours or until we spot it and tell her to spit it out. I just don’t know what to do anymore, I’ve tried pretending that I don’t care whether she eats it or not, I’ve tried being firm, I’ve tried bribery, I’ve tried eating away from the table, I’ve tried picnics in the garden, eating at friend’s houses, eating at school, I’m completely lost and just wish that a fairy would wave their magic wand and make it all better.
We have seen Paediatricians and Dieticians, the Paediatricians tell us that she is fine and it will correct itself over time. The Dieticians tell us to just keep offering different foods. But she won’t even ‘try’ new foods, anything new that is put in front of her is greeted with “don’t like it” without it touching her lips. She even gets upset when we give Beanie Boy new foods and he accepts them all happily.
My fear is that she has a very unhealthy attitude towards food and I don’t want this to develop into an eating disorder as she grows up. I cringe inside as mealtimes approach because I know what is ahead of me. Tonight I tried getting the paints out before tea and doing them at the table whilst her tea cooked so that she was relaxed, all was going well until the minute I put the plate down in front of her and then came the face and pushing the plate around the table.
I wrote on here a couple of weeks ago that she had been diagnosed with Slapped Cheek and that she didn’t seem herself, but I thought by now this would have resolved itself. Her pre-school key-workers have commented that she is very quiet and not at all the usual bubbly little girl that they see. She has been crying at the drop of a hat, this morning she had a major meltdown because Daddy told her it was time to get dressed, he didn’t shout at her, he didn’t interrupt anything that she was doing, he just said it was time to get dressed. She is being especially cuddly at the moment too, she just seems to want me all the time but on the whole is just very quiet. My Little Bean is normally full of beans, a very happy little girl who is a pleasure to be around and I want her back.