Have I failed as a parent?
I am so disappointed in my daughter at the moment, she is a beautiful little girl who has always been very loving and kind. But recently she has become violent towards just about everyone, she hits, kicks, punches and throws things. She isn’t even picky who is on the receiving end, her baby brother, her big brother, Daddy and me, Nanna and yesterday she threw a stone at her Grandad. When playing with friends she will snatch and fight, push and shove.
She ignores instruction pretty much all of the time and screams very loud when we stop her from doing something that she has already been told not to do.
This morning she slapped her brother’s leg and he retaliated by kicking her. She got told off for slapping her brother but I then felt extremely disappointed in him because he is 9 years old and she is 3. He is old enough to know better than to kick a little girl.
I’m really wondering where we have gone wrong with our children? We have always been there for them, I am a stay-at-home Mum and I try to balance their time between doing fun things with me, going out for walks, trips to the park and other fun places or having quiet time playing on their own and yes, watching some TV though I’m proud to say that my children don’t know the names of all CBeebies characters. They have playtime with friends at home, playgroup and school but often the reports come back that Little Bean has been fighting or pushing. They all get fair attention and they each their own special time with me on my own.
Little Bean rarely says ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ and when we go out she will constantly be asking ‘I want that teddy’, ‘I want that book’ and I hate it. I have always told them that if they ask for something I will not buy it so why am I still getting this spoilt behaviour?
Yesterday I was talking to a lady whose daughter is now 26 years old and they no longer talk. She said that from the age of 2 years old she struggled with her daughter’s behaviour and I am so frightened that the same will happen with Little Bean. She is my little girl and I love her with every bone in my body, I want a good relationship with her but I just don’t know what to do.
Where have I gone wrong?