You may have noticed that I haven’t been posting very much personal stuff recently. There are a couple of reasons for that, one is that Christmas is coming and I have so many great products to tell you about in case you are stuck for ideas and the other is that I just haven’t been in the right headspace if I’m honest and I’m feeling a little burnt out.
I’ve always been a busy person dashing around trying to be superwoman but I’m starting to realise that this isn’t overly healthy as I need to take a break. As a family we seem to be having a little run of bad luck at the moment, nothing HUGE but sometimes it’s the culmination of little things which can make you feel a whole load worse, it just seems to be one thing after another and we have reached the straw that broke the camels back a few too many times now so I’m trying to sit back and take stock.
I’ve been feeling quite philosophical about things and am going to try a different approach. In fact part of my new approach is down to my friend Karin and her #embracehappy philosophy. When bad things keep on happening it’s easy to let yourself get taken down with them and I’m very much of the opinion that the more you focus on something the more it will happen so it’s time for a change. Rather than focusing on the negatives, I’m going to look forwards, not backwards. As Karin says, “Not every day is good BUT there is good in every day”. Even on the really pants days, with children around there is bound to have been something they did which made you smile, I know mine do.
Take this for example, on Monday evening Little Bean and Beanie Boy were doing their usual “let’s wind Mummy up at the tea table trick”. I had just started to shout at them (which is something I am trying to stop) when I heard Jelly Bean say “face”. I look across the table to see his chocolate custard covered face staring back at me and I just laughed and laughed. He is quite a knowing little fella and I think he did this on purpose to diffuse the situation because he is actually surprisingly accurate with his feeding. If I am upset or any of the others are upset, Jelly Bean will sing “happy, happy, happy” just to put a smile on your face and it works.
As a family we are trying very hard to make changes for the better, I am now three weeks into the parenting course which I signed myself up for as a result of feeling like a rubbish parent and I’m pleased to say that it’s making me feel much better about myself and my Beans. I need to remind myself that they are children and that children don’t always do things to hurt you or make you angry on purpose, they are learning and as adults it is our responsibility to show them the right way to treat people and the right way to do things. It’s also easy to assume that a bad parenting day is all down to your parenting and the children when in fact, outside factors can have a big influence on the day. I will share more about the parenting course in a separate post because there are some really easy changes you can make which can make a big difference. I am starting to see improvements already.
I’m quite excited about something which we are going to be doing on Friday but I’m afraid that’s all I’m going to tell you, I shall report back over the next couple of weeks about that one.
So, the crux of this post really is to say “please bear with me, I am still here but I need a little time and I’ll be back soon, bigger, brighter and better than before” xx