54/365 – Potty training: when and how?
Potty training is a topic that has occupied mind space with me for a while now. Some of Little Bean’s friends started potty training a few months ago and so far so good. I had always had it planned in my mind that I would attempt potty training with her last summer when we were at the mid-point house. We knew that we would be there for about 6 months until our new house was built and the whole of the downstairs was laminate or tiled floors and had a downstairs toilet – all perfect for little accidents. But as it turned out, I was pregnant with Beanie Boy and the Health Visitor advised against potty training when we would be moving house twice and with a new baby on the way so I pushed the thought out of my mind. There was one day when we were at a play date with Cafebebe and Little Miss and the girls were playing outside in water buckets. We had taken their nappies off whilst they were running around and Little Bean actually came to me and said that she needed the toilet before doing a wee on the patio. I was really surprised that she had told me because I really didn’t think she seemed to know when she was doing anything.
We already have a potty which she chose herself and sits in her bathroom so that she can sit on it before her bath in an evening. She sits on it, say “ah there you go, I’ve done a wee wee” but all that’s there to see is fresh air!
For a time when friends would visit with their little girls who are potty trained, she would ask me after they had left if she could do a wee on the toilet. I asked if she wanted to go on the toilet or the potty and she said, toilet. But the minute she sat on it (on a kiddie seat) she freaked out and hasn’t asked again since.
When she does a pooh, she will happily sit in it until I catch a whiff of it and take her to change her nappy. She will never come and tell me that she has done it or ask me to change her nappy unless she is about to sit down to eat her dinner.
I have read various articles about when is the right time to potty train and one pointer that often crops up is whether your child ‘hides’ away to do their business. Little Bean has never done this at all, she doesn’t mind standing in the middle of the room grunting and groaning her way through it.
So my question is, when should I think about starting to potty train her? She will be 3 years old in June, she has started pre-school and yet she seems to show no interest in being a ‘big girl’ at all, even though she tells me at every opportunity that she is a big girl now.
And my second question is, what is the best approach to potty training? Cold turkey, pull-ups?????? Decisions, decisions, decisions?????