So yesterday when I picked Little Bean up from pre-school I was told that she had been less than kind to a couple of girls, pulling one girl’s hair, scratching another girls face and then attempted to punch another. After a chat last night and another this morning before school I hoped to received better news when I collected her tonight but when I arrived and spoke to her key-worker I was told that today was worse than yesterday. Because of yesterday’s outburst they had kept a close eye on her today and watched as she committed unprovoked attack after attack. Today she has been punching, kicking, pulling hair and scratching. On one occasion she was witnessed ramming a pushchair into a girls leg and then pinching her arm but there was no reason for it, the little girl didn’t have any toys, she hadn’t said anything, she hadn’t done anything, Little Bean just decided to have a go.
Little Bean’s key worker said that she had received numerous time-outs today and had been talked to about her behaviour but all she responds with is “. . .because I did” or “I don’t know” when asked why she has behaved in a less-than-kind manner to another child.
This has really upset me and my first response at school was to cry, I’m feeling more than a little emotional at the news that my daughter is being unkind to others as I didn’t raise her this way and I feel like I don’t know who she is. We have had a talk again since we arrived home and I reiterated that she will not be permitted to watch TV any day after school this week and that I am very unhappy with her behaviour. So just imagine how I felt when less than 5 minutes later I watched her walk up to Beanie Boy, push him over and then knee him in the face!!!
Her behaviour would suggest to me that she is seeking attention but I just don’t understand why, both Little Bean and Beanie Boy have my full attention when we are at home, we don’t watch lots of TV, we play games, we do baking, playdoh and crafts so why is she being like this?
She is currently having another time-out on the bottom of the stairs but I fear this will have no effect again – I am lost and I don’t know what to do. If someone finds my once kind and loving little girl, please return her home.