Emotions are important when it comes to living life – they help us make decisions, handle issues and defines who we are. Some individuals, however, are much more emotionally sensitive than others, and they have trouble handling them, and most of the time, this incompetency develops right from childhood.
If you too, suspect you have a child who is more sensitive, and tends to experience all emotions in a more magnified way, here’s helping you handle that. Read on…
Be Mindful Together
Mindfulness can be transformative, and if you haven’t been practising it already, now’s the time to bring it into your lives. Being mindful, focusing on the moment and taking things one step at a time can help keep your child from being overwhelmed by emotions. By incorporating mindfulness into his life, he’ll learn to be more calm, and less reactive over things. In fact, several studies have confirmed – mindfulness can help make you a stronger person, and can help you turn your negative emotions into sources of strength.
Model Good Behaviour
You probably knew this one was coming – as a parent, you’re a role model for your child. If you are able to master healthy emotional management yourself, your child will follow the same, and he’ll learn how it is okay to not take everything to heart. If you want your kids to not throw temper tantrums, learn to manage your anger yourself first. Also, remember that young children are often driven by emotions, so take things one step at a time and be patient.
Accept the Feelings
A big mistake most parents tend to make when it comes to helping their children manage their emotions is that they belittle those emotions. Children, especially sensitive children often seek validation from their parents, and if you don’t give that to them, things can backfire very easily. You would want your child to feel safe enough to express his emotions in front of you, so the next time he comes to you about something, no matter how small it is, listen to him attentively, and acknowledge his feelings. Be sensitive towards your child – it will help him find his calm better than anything else will.
Look for Grounding Activities
Remember the last time you felt crappy, and your emotions were all over the place. What did you do? Help your child find those activities that help him stay grounded and encourage him to practise those whenever he feels less in control of his emotions. Meditation, taking a shower, going for a walk, writing his feelings down in a journal or even colouring or painting have been found to be good, healthy outlets to help manage difficult emotions for both children and adults.