Do you really forget the pain of labour?
My head is spinning right now – I’m 10 days off my due date and starting to get a little anxious about the birth of my second baby. I’ve been getting more and more painful period pains which I don’t remember getting last time. Monday night I went to bed fully expecting my waters to break in the middle of the night because I felt so rough throughout the evening, so imagine my disappointment when I awoke Tuesday morning to find that nothing had happened!
This morning I was woken at 6.30pm by horrendous period pains but here we are at nearly 10am and they’ve pretty much gone. I’ve never been a sufferer of period pains so I’m not very good when I do get them, they totally mess with my concentration and ability to stick to just one task. I wouldn’t say that I have a particularly low pain threshold but I hate annoying pains that just hang around.
I’m starting to wonder if this labour is going to be more painful than the first because apparently my cervix will dilate much quicker than the during my first labour because, basically it has already been stretched – a bit like an old balloon I suppose. The first time you blow it up you feel like you could pass out from the effort needed but if you let it go and then blow it up again, its much easier the second time. That’s how I’m thinking about my cervix anyway. During my first labour my pains were all in my legs, which surprised me as obviously I wasn’t expecting them there but I have been getting aches and pains in my thighs again so perhaps my body is getting ready.
Obviously I’ve been thinking about the labour quite a lot recently and thinking back to last time. They say that you forget the pain of labour, which to a certain extent I agree with. When Little Bean was placed in my arms it was like the last 8 hours hadn’t happened to me – I had the most precious, beautiful little bundle in my arms. But 27 months on, I’m starting to remember the pain of that labour quite clearly, I have the same philosophy as last time, it went in so its got to come out but that doesn’t mean its going to be fun and giggles all the way. It will be worth it in the end but the bit before is the bit that’s bugging me. I always said that I would wait to have my second child until they had invented a pain free method of pushing, apparently that hasn’t happened so I must have misread the guidelines somewhere!?
So to all you Mums out there who are second, third and fourth timers etc etc, what advice can you give an ever so slightly frightened and IMPATIENT second-time-mum-to-be on her impending labour? I know for a fact that eating pineapples, curries, bumpy roads, sex and raspberry leaf tea don’t work for me – Little Bean was the full 2 weeks late! But I’m still drinking raspberry leaf tea like its going out of fashion because I do believe that it made my contractions more efficient and kept my labour quite short. What can you tell me about the pains, is it worse second time around? Do you really have bigger babies? Little Bean was only 7lb 5oz so I’m aiming for 8lb this time. I do want to do things differently, I want to try for a more active birth this time, walking, standing, bouncing on a ball etc and not getting stuck in a bed with stirrups like last time. All help and advice gratefully received . . . . . .