I don’t normally get drawn into the politics and arguments that go on in the world unless it affects me directly or seriously gets my goat. But over the weekend I spotted a couple of posts about some numpty columnist for the Daily Mail slagging off the parent blogging world and accusing us of neglecting our children, having a narrow field of vision and calling us ‘little women’. I wanted to see what all the fuss was about and read her racist, sexist and downright rude article. I know Simone and Cambridge Mummy who she speaks of and both are far from ‘little women’, I have found both to be very driven, hands-on Mums. (If you want to read her article google Liz Jones Blogging – I am not giving her any links!).
Blogging, it’s something that before becoming a mother I had never even heard of, I was too busy on the hamster wheel of life, getting up, driving to work, sitting at my desk, driving home, cooking tea (ok I lied about that bit, Hubby cooked the tea in those days), going to the gym (sometimes), going to bed and occasionally going out at the weekend. Then I became a Mum and my life changed forever, I felt I had found my place in the world caring for my gorgeous tiddlers.
My blog came at a time when I needed it, having successfully given birth to my daughter I then suffered two miscarriages and not knowing anyone in the ‘real world’ who I could talk to about the experience I found support in the virtual world, people who knew the pain of such a loss and at a later date I was able to meet in person and who have become real friends.
Despite what Ms Jones says, I do not sit my children in front of the TV whilst I spend hours at my computer, I blog when they are sleeping or at school. I am proud to say that my children and I do not know half of the characters featuring on children’s TV. During their waking hours we enjoy doing activities together, arts and crafts, baking (yes Ms Jones – cupcakes OMG!), walks, trips to London on the train, bus trips, parent and toddler groups, playdates, pretty much anything that we want to do TOGETHER!!
Now had I returned to work like some of my friends had to/chose to at the end of maternity leave (or holiday as Ms Jones liked to put it) then my children would have spent their days at nursery/childminders or pre-school where they would have missed out on the opportunities and experiences I have been able to give them thanks to my blogging.
As a result of my blog we have attended events, enjoyed family days out and experienced holidays that otherwise we would not have been able to do if I had returned to work because my salary would have been eaten up in childcare. Instead I have been able to make money from my site and enjoy the best of both worlds. Our children are only young for a short space of time so why should we be slated for doing what we can to enable us to make the most of them, once all of my children are bolstered away in the education system I shall once again return to the working masses but I shall do it with a smile on my face from all the fabulous memories I have created with my children.
The Parent Blogging community is one of great support and drive, we encourage each other to make better choices, to make a difference in the world (see Save The Children, Unicef and countless other charities supported by the blogging world) and we pass this knowledge onto our children so that they too can create a better future for the next generation. It’s not all about coffee mornings and chocolate brownies – although they are pretty good too!!
Is my field of vision narrow as you insinuate? Hell no, I have seen and experienced more in my life in the last 4+ years than I had in my whole lifetime and I would encourage anyone with a bit of determination to do the same.