Today I’m dreaming of being a better Mummy, I started out pretty good when Little Bean was younger I would do structured play for her and try at all costs to keep the TV switched off unless it was to put MTV on for a bit of music. Whilst she was napping I would swap all her toys around so that she had a different set of toys to keep her from getting bored, we would go for walks and attend classes at the local Children’s Centre but the older she has become and certainly since Beanie Boy has come along I think I’m pretty rubbish.
For starters I feel very tired but that could be due to the fact that I have 1001 things to tick off on my ‘To Do’ list. Every now and then I remember to get paints, pencils or playdoh out for some messy play fun, occasionally I will bake cakes with Little Bean, we do go to the park at least once per week and I do try to get down on the floor and actually play with them most days but I have also realised just how much I have started to rely on good old Nanny TV when Little Bean gets home from school or on her days ‘off’ and I feel bad for it.
This morning I swapped some of Little Bean’s toys over from her toy boxes and suggested that she play with the ‘new’ toys I had got out. She played with them for all of 10 minutes before asking if she could have the TV on. I said that she couldn’t have the TV on at all today as she was getting far too reliant upon it, cue floods of tears and a tantrum from Little Bean. I said that she never plays with her toys anymore and so we might as well give them all away to which she said “Ok let’s give them to a another little boy or girl”. I asked her if she understood what she was saying, and she replied “yes I don’t play with my toys, I just want to watch TV so someone else can have them”. That to me was a massive wake-up call, she is far too reliant on TV and I’ve only got myself to blame. I have been so busy trying to keep on top of my work from home, I have told myself its ok to let her watch “just 10 more minutes” whilst I get a few more jobs done. Don’t get me wrong, we still go out most days when she is at home but on the whole I would say that she watches at least 2 hours of TV a day and this isn’t good enough.
I switched the TV off this morning and told her she couldn’t watch anything else today. Instead we baked Beanie Boy’s birthday cake for his party tomorrow, we made ice lollies, we did ‘making’ and painting and then we went to the park. After all that I have been rewarded with an hour’s naptime from both of them but on the whole I haven’t actually achieved anything else I needed to do today.
I need to find a compromise because I definitely need to be a better Mummy!